The last couple of days have been overly emotional ones for me. This practice of tolerance and trying to use my words effectively rather then emotionally has gotten away from me. Now, I have never said that I am the most tolerant person in the world, or that I have mastered the art of leaving emotion out of my conversations with others, it is just how I would like to be; because it is more effective than losing your mind on people who disagree with you. I am obviously not there yet.
For me the issue of faith and sexuality is the thing I just can’t keep my mouth shut about, and someday I will tell my story here (not today though). I will say that a friend of mine posted something on Facebook that I found personally offensive and I sent him a message to let him now how unhappy I was with what he wrote. The message I wrote to him was full of emotion and a touch of anger and I doubt that my message was heard (or even read all the way through). I don’t blame him if he is angry, and I have since apologized but that doesn’t take away what I said in an overly emotional moment.
It is that kind of response I am trying to eliminate from my life, and to try and teach others to eliminate as well. Obviously, when we try to change things about ourselves, we will occasionally fail. The point though is to not give up, to keep trying. I want to be a positive force in this world, and I want my words to have value. I think everyone has that one subject that comes up that they feel so passionately about that they just can’t contain themselves. I do believe that there is a right and wrong way to express those opinions to try and open another persons eyes to a point of view they may not have seen before – but anger and impulse are not effective ways to do it.
I am a work in progress like every other person on this planet, and the most I can do now is to learn from my mistake and find better ways to express my opinions. “Don’t raise your voice – improve your argument.”
Have you ever sent a message to someone out of pure emotion? How did that go for you? Do you think you could have said it differently to gain a more positive response? What is your ‘hot button’ issue?